When my fiancé and I go out to dinner, one of the hardest things to do is decide where we want to go.  

Do you have the same issue?

On a beautiful Saturday morning, I decided to change my life for the better.

It was super weird because it happened instantly. I was taking a nap at home when I suddenly got up from bed, as if my life depended on it (which it did, but I didn’t know that at the time). The first thing that came to mind was “I’m going back to college!”

I thought that the best way to improve my “self” was the school system, but I was wrong. With respect, I believe that the school system is broken.

I say this because during my time in school, from kindergarten to college, I was never taught the meaning of personal development. I had many teachers, and none of them talked about habits, goals, investments, taxes, or relationships.

All I remember is my teachers saying, “Make sure you do your homework so you can get good grades and pass your test.”  At the age of 39, I learned that in the real world, personal development/personal growth is much more important than a title if you want to find your true purpose in life.

But why do so many people stay stuck and frustrated with their lives? Why do so many people live with regret?

I know why because I lived it.

It all comes down to decision-making.

According to research, an adult makes roughly 38,000 decisions per day, that’s about 13.8 million decisions per years which makes the person an expert in decision-making, so why do people struggle so much in this area? I think it’s because of fear or what I like to call the “3 negative emotions.”

·      The Fear of Criticism

·      The Fear of Failure

·      The Fear of the Unknown

But let’s dive a little deeper into the Fear of Criticism.  

Inside this fear, I found a growth gap that stops people in their tracks when they make the decision to improve their lives through personal development. I named it “The Guilt Gap.”

The guilt gap is a gap that makes you want to quit your personal growth. It attacks you with emotion. In fact, I still struggle with this myself. The guilt gap is a voice in your head saying, “Hey, you, why are you doing this right now? You should be with your kids, your wife or husband, your girlfriend or boyfriend, you should be having fun. Leave it, you can do this tomorrow!”

I can’t tell you how many times I had to battle with the guilt gap, in fact, this morning I had to make a decision whether to go eat breakfast with my fiancé and some friends or finish writing this newsletter. I stayed home to write. Which brings me to these questions...

How do you defeat the guilt gap?

How do you know you’re making the right decision?

Simple! You start by evaluating your priorities.

Ask yourself these questions...

What are my priorities, and which decision is going to bring the best positive outcome in my life?

For example. In my case, yes I wanted to go have fun and eat breakfast with my fiancé and friends, but if I had made the decision to go hang out this morning, then I would have missed my deadline and you wouldn’t be reading this right now.

Not only that, but one of my big priorities this year is to become a great writer and grow my ghostwriting business, so skipping breakfast this morning was the best decision toward my goals. Was it easy? no but I can say this... The ROI is 100% worth it.

 So, next time you have a hard time making a tough decision, look at your priorities and let your priorities influence your decisions.

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